Not every relationship ends with closure.

Not every friendship comes full circle.

Sometimes you give your best love to people who don’t return it.

You show up. You invest. You pray. You forgive…

And they disappear. Or they disappoint. Or they just drift.

And you’re left wondering…

“Did I waste my time? My heart? My effort?”

But here’s the truth…

Love that isn’t reciprocated can STILL be redeemed if it gets redirected.

Jesus said, “Love your enemies… do good to those who hate you” (Luke 6:27).

Why? Because love was never just about getting something back.

It’s about who you’re becoming when you give it.

Growing up, my dad was a paramedic.

He used to say something that stuck with me—not because it was comforting, but because it was blunt and tru…

“All bleeding stops… eventually.”

At the time, I didn’t really get it. But now? I do.

Whether it’s heartbreak, relational wounds, or silent betrayals—the bleeding always stops.

Sometimes because healing happens.

Sometimes because you finally let go.

Either way, pain isn’t permanent when it’s placed in God’s hands.

Even the cuts that ran deepest aren’t wasted.

Even the love that didn’t come back still shaped something in me.

And even the people who walked away taught me how to stay present for the ones who stayed.

In God’s economy, nothing is wasted.

Not the pain.

Not the silence.

Not the bleeding.

Let God use even the love that didn’t “work out”

to grow you deeper, stronger, and make you look more like Jesus.

In life, in friendships, in ministry… some people will walk away.

Some won’t text back.

Some will talk about you—but never to you.

They’ll say things behind your back to damage your name,

then act confused when you finally set boundaries.

Some will ghost you after you gave them everything—time, energy, love, sacrifice.

They’ll rewrite the story to make themselves look like the victim,

and never once mention the good you did in their lives.

They’ll forget the prayers you prayed for them,

the groceries you bought when they were struggling,

the late-night calls, the encouragement, the forgiveness, the loyalty.

And when you finally get quiet,

when you finally stop giving them access to your peace—

they’ll say you’re the problem.

HOWEVER…You and I don’t need everyone’s validation to walk in obedience.

And you definitely don’t need everyone’s memory to know your love wasn’t wasted.

God saw it all.

Every act of kindness. Every word of encouragement. Every sacrifice.

And in His hands, none of it goes unnoticed.

Don’t let that pain make you bitter…(all bleeding stops eventually)

Let it make you BETTER.



Pour it into your church family.

Pour it into the ones who show up every week.

Pour it into the new person who needs someone to believe in them.

Because in the Kingdom, nothing given in love is ever wasted.

PZ